Life with kids is not for the faint of heart. Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids, I am so, so, SO grateful for them, but having kids is a HUGE responsibility. What’s even harder for me, is that my kids are all in different stages of life. My oldest is 8, and she is fully engulfed in school, Girl Scouts, tutoring, and becoming a beautiful young lady in general. My 3 year old is a little spitfire of a toddler, talking up a storm and learning about life in such a fun and exciting way. Then there’s my son, who just turned a year old and is teetering on that baby/toddler edge, and definitely testing his boundaries. Not to mention, he is still not walking, so I have to lug his 30 pound body around wherever we go, while juggling bags and two other children. It ain’t easy, folks!
Now, on top of motherhood, I have a responsibility as a wife, friend, school mom (both girls go to school), daughter (my mom is single so I try to help her as much as I can.. She’s getting ready to have surgery and she will need my help getting her to and from the hospital and settled in at home). I volunteer with my daughter’s girl scout troop, I work from home as a blogger, virtual assistant and direct sales rep. I pay the bills, I run the errands and I cook the food. I try to volunteer at my church as much as I can, but that has proved to be very difficult because of the whole children factor. Oh yea, did I mention that we are trying to sell our house? Whew!
Now, why am I saying all of this? Because life is hectic for me. Life since 2014 has been nothing but a fog of busyness that just keeps getting busier. Since my son was born, I have barely done anything for myself, by myself.
My legs aren’t shaved, I haven’t had a pedicure since before my son was born. I can’t remember the last time I had a night out where I wasn’t worried about something or someone or getting back to my kids at a decent time. My obligation to keep the peace, keep the kids happy and keep a together home has overshadowed any time that I have for myself.
Now, I know, I am not the only one in this type of boat, and I don’t want this post to be misconstrued as negative or a put down of my family. I LOVE my family. I am BLESSED!
But I am also tired. And overwhelmed at times. And I kick myself because I overcommit and worry too much about what other people think. I am the type of person who does not like to let people down. I have the world’s biggest guilty conscience and I am a worry-wart! I have been told by several people to take a break, and get some time for yourself.
Easier said than done. But, I will try, even if it’s one step at a time. When I was offered to do the review of The Fringe Hours by Jessica Turner, I was so excited, and I did not hesitate to say YES! I knew this was the kickstart I needed to get my life straightened out so I can be a happier, more peaceful mother, daughter, wife– you name it.
The Fringe Hours really spoke to me on many levels. First, Ms. Turner is a blogger just like I am and I found that highly relatable. I felt myself nodding my head with just about everything she said when it comes to balancing life with a blog.
The book also resonates with me because it talks about being one who never says no. A people pleaser. I am a HUGE people pleaser. Wanting to make everyone happy in exchange for my happiness. I love when she says that when it comes to committing to things, “if it’s not a heck yes, it’s a no.” If it’s not something I am absolutely pumped and excited about doing, then I am not doing it.
Another thing I need to do is prioritize my time and there’s a big section about that in The Fringe Hours. When I am busy doing too much, I tend to get overwhelmed. In the book it talks about how letting go of things and prioritizing your time to work more efficiently will help you not to become so overwhelmed. I know that when I get overwhelmed, I tend to shut down, thus procrastinating. To be honest, that’s why I am late getting this review done. Now that I have read this book, it has helped me to prioritize my time better, to be more efficient with my blog and at home. This book is something I definitely needed in my life. Sometimes, when life is hard and overwhelming, you need someone or a book to give you a virtual slap in the face and tell you to get your act together!
Thank you, Jessica, for being my virtual slap and showing me that my ministry as a wife, mother and Child of God is better served when I take time for myself and become a better me.